Eye contact or the lack of it, what does that say about you? Self Defense depends alot on what you convey in your body language and eye contact.
I teach all my students and young people I come into contact with over the years to look people in the eye. When you shake hands or talk with someone, looking them in the eye allows them to gauge your measure and it is a time that you can truly communicate what you are feeling. Scientists say that over 70 percent of communication is non verbal, some people even believe it is higher, even up to 90 percent on occasion!
Don’t Be ‘Seen’ As A Victim
Avoiding eye contact is a sure way of ‘flagging’ yourself as a victim. It can also protray that you are less than honest. One of the first things we learn to interpret as children are facial expressions. We learn to understand emotions and the state of mind of a person just by the set of the 43 muscles in the face. With that being said, predators usually are not rocket scientists. Many are even unbalanced. Something they do very well though is picking out a victim. Communicating to the world around you that you are a confident and strong person by showing a ‘sence of purpose’ when you walk is paramount in repelling a predator. Make eye contact briefly to show that you acknowledge someone’s presence but are not intimidated by them. This look should be for a count of one. A longer look might seem overly aggressive.
You should swing your arms as you walk (Do not be burdened with possible ‘loot’ for the predator). A good self defense trainer will teach his students to scan as they walk. As you walk, scan for threats and identify targets that are taking an interest in you. A great article that uses this tip and others is Self Sufficiency & Your Role. Let your body language and eye contact convey that you are a strong, confident and capable person. Remember that the predator usually does not have a plan ‘B’, therefor they will just move on to an alternate target. ATA Leadership Martial Arts and Krav Maga teaches these techniques and others. Come in and ask about how we can help you with your goals for safety and peace of mind.
Confidence to a predator is like bug spray to a pest, it repels. Stay safe!
Michael Brown is a seventh degree black belt and Senior Master Instructor of Taekwondo. For over 16 hears he has been serving his communities as a certified instructor of Krav Maga. He is a two time world champion in sparring and a former Captain in the United States Marine Corps. As a big supporter of the 2nd Amendment and a firearm safety expert, Mr. Brown trains individuals in consealed and carry techniques. Michael Brown has been working with families and training people in self defense in North Carolina for over 27 years. He and his wife, Kimberly Brown love working with military personnel, law enforcement and civilians to become combat ready and helping them develop skills that will enable them to be the ‘First Responders’ for their families.